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Betrayal in a Relationship
Wednesday, January 06, 2010
(Read Count: 619)
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By: Dr. Eileen Borris
You’ve met the person who makes you feel so special. It feels wonderful to be in love and now you are married hoping that this relationship will last your life time. Years have gone by and marriage has been good to you - so you thought. You begin to notice some different behaviors from your spouse which at first you ignore. For awhile you begin to wonder if something is going on but you brush it off. After all, the last thing you could ever imagine is that your spouse is having an affair. You don’t even want to go there. You begin to piece some things together and your s...
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Dr. Eileen Borris is an expert who works with individuals and couples to help heal the emotional pain associated with marriage and relationship problems, especially infidelity and betrayals.
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Guys, Relationships and Porn: Part Deux
Tuesday, September 15, 2009
(Read Count: 583)
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By: Jason Fierstein, MA, LPC
If you suspect that the use of pornography is coming between you and your wife or girlfriend, it probably is. It’s not something that’s totally comfortable for guys to talk about with their women, and yet for a lot of couples, it’s the elephant in the room.
Some of the stats on pornography are staggering. More than 70% of men from 18 to 34 visit a pornographic site in a typical month (comScore Media Metrix). This stat especially stood out to me: 70% of all online porn access occurs during the 9-5 workday (Message labs monthly report, March 2004).
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As the "man that men will talk to," Jason Fierstein, MA, LPC, is a counselor for men and couples and practices in Phoenix, AZ. He works with guys who want to improve their lives, and make happier wives. He is currently accepting new clients. Please visit his profile for more information or to set an appointment.
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Why the Holidays can Bring More Conflict than Joy
Thursday, December 03, 2009
(Read Count: 536)
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By: Mr. Brett R. Williams, LMFT
Help with the emotions around the holidays typically focuses on the “Holiday Blues”, but there is very little press regarding the tension and conflicts that erupt during this time of year. Relationships are like the proverbial canary in the mine shafts, in that they are the first to be affected by stress and tension. When we are upset we typically don’t snap at our friends or coworkers, it all comes out towards our spouse or intimate partner. Although thi...
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Seven Short Steps to Relationship Success for Guys
Friday, September 11, 2009
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By: Jason Fierstein, MA, LPC
If there is no time to waste, use one or more of the seven short steps to turn around the tempo in your relationship or marriage. Many guys that I talk with call me at the 11th hour, when it may or may not be too late to save their relationship. They go in a panic mode, and wants to do whatever they can to save their relationship. The simple fact: it’s not as easy as that. But try telling that to some of these desperate guys.
Here’s seven short steps to improving your chances for relationship success, and hopefully staving off some more sour times for ...
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As the "man that men will talk to," Jason Fierstein, MA, LPC, is a counselor for men and couples and practices in Phoenix, AZ. He works with guys who want to improve their lives, and make happier wives. He is currently accepting new clients. Please visit his profile for more information or to set an appointment.
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Why Do Relationships Fail?
Wednesday, October 14, 2009
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By: Dr. Steven T. Griggs, Ph.D.
As an outpatient psychologist, I have been in practice over twenty years. I see eight conditions every day and the one that stands out the most is "relationships." This includes straight but also gay ones, and more often than not the longer-term variety. While short-term relationships present with their own specific problems, it is the longer-term
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NICE Men vs. DRACULAS - Women want DRACULAS, not just NICE men!
Thursday, January 14, 2010
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By: Kevin Barwick, LCPC
I really enjoy working with couples. It’s fulfilling and challenging to help couples make needed changes that bring more connection in their lives. Much of the challenge, however, is that the dynamics within a relationship change as often as sand shifts and takes on new shapes.
One of those new shapes is what I hear a lot in my therapy practice. One woman said,
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Kevin Barwick has been in private practice for nearly 15 years as a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor (LCPC) in the State of Maryland. Previously, he had worked at the Department of Social Services, Youth and Family Division for over 10 years providing foster care placement services. Additionally, he has worked with several agencies in and around the Washington, DC metropolitan areas. He is often found presenting classes, workshops and seminars on a variety of topics.
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Growing Through Divorce
Friday, November 13, 2009
(Read Count: 419)
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By: Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT
Divorce ranks just above death in severity of stress and is often combined with other stressors, such as marital discord, serious financial problems, a move, single parenting, multiple losses and litigation, all at once. It’s a life cycle crisis that presents a crucial period of increased vulnerability and heightened potential. With consciousness, the process can be edifying. Although not easy, it’s extremely rewarding, because, in the long run you feel better and learn from the experience, so you don't have to repeat the same mistakes.
Divorce consists of seve...
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Darlene Lancer is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in Santa Monica, with a broad experience, working with individuals and couples for more than twenty years. Her focus is relationships and career goals, helping clients lead fuller lives. Formerly an attorney in the corporate and private sectors for 18 years, she's familiar with career challenges and transitions. Both in private practice and as a Senior Mediator in Los Angeles Superior Court, she mediated Divorce and Child Custody and Visitation Disputes.She's also worked extensively in the field of addiction and co-dependency at numerous hospitals and treatment facilities. Helping substance abusers and their families find recovery has been a rewarding part of her practice. She's familiar with 12-Step Programs, but has a client-centered philosophy, encouraging each person to determine his or her own abstinence and treatment goals.
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Falling in Love
Monday, February 01, 2010
(Read Count: 376)
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By: Lynn A. Vice, Psy.D
“Life is so short, so fast the lone hours fly, We ought to be together, you and I.” – Henry Alford
With Valentine’s Day approaching, our thoughts naturally turn to romance and love. Cupid’s arrows are about to fly and most everyone secretly hopes that an arrow will strike them. We are a society of people who love to be in love!
Being in love is that time in which we idealize the other person. We see in them the person we want them to be, not the person they really are. This occurs partly because people fall in lov...
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Relationships as a Spiritual Path
Friday, November 13, 2009
(Read Count: 337)
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By: Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT
The concept of spirituality is derived from "spiritus," meaning vitality or the breath of life. That force awakens us like an electric charge. Staying connected to that energy strengthens and enlivens our soul. Our relationships present a constant opportunity to tap into this power.
We can practice spiritual ideals, such as faith, truth, surrender, patience and compassion in our relationships. They have a synergistic effect, reinforcing one another and strengthening us.
Faith allows us t...
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Darlene Lancer is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in Santa Monica, with a broad experience, working with individuals and couples for more than twenty years. Her focus is relationships and career goals, helping clients lead fuller lives. Formerly an attorney in the corporate and private sectors for 18 years, she's familiar with career challenges and transitions. Both in private practice and as a Senior Mediator in Los Angeles Superior Court, she mediated Divorce and Child Custody and Visitation Disputes.She's also worked extensively in the field of addiction and co-dependency at numerous hospitals and treatment facilities. Helping substance abusers and their families find recovery has been a rewarding part of her practice. She's familiar with 12-Step Programs, but has a client-centered philosophy, encouraging each person to determine his or her own abstinence and treatment goals.
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Contrary to Widely Held Beliefs, Romance Can Last in Long-Term Relationships, Say Researchers
Wednesday, November 11, 2009
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By: Bianca P. Acevedo, PhD and Arthur Aron, PhD
WASHINGTON – Romance does not have to fizzle out in long-term relationships and progress into a companionship/friendship-type love, a new study has found. Romantic love can last a lifetime and lead to happier, healthier relationships.
"Many believe that romantic love is the same as passionate love," said lead researcher Bianca P. Acevedo, PhD, then at Stony Brook University (currently at University of California, Santa Barbara). "It isn't. Romantic love has the intensity, engag...
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Article: "Does a Long-Term Relationship Kill Romantic Love?" Bianca P. Acevedo, PhD, and Arthur Aron, PhD, Stony Brook University; Review of General Psychology, Vol. 13, No. 1.
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The Hidden Agenda In Relationships
Tuesday, March 16, 2010
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By: Reuben E. Gross, PhD, ABPP, LMFT
All relationships have hidden agendas or unexpressed expectations. This axiom includes marital, familial, social, educational, business, political and virtually every other type of relationship. In a manual on marital therapy, Dr. Peter Martin presents a schematic model of the marriage contract. His analysis should be noted by married as well as non-married couples to help them understand the underlying nature of their relationships. Martin postulates three dimensions to th...
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Reuben E. Gross, PhD is dually licensed in NJ as a Marriage Counselor (LMFT) and a Psychologist. He has had a private practice in NJ and NYC for more than 35 years, specializing in marriage and premarital counseling. He is solution-oriented in his approach and takes an active role during sessions. His homework assignments include reading as well as interactive exercises for the couple. To learn more about Dr. Gross please visit his profile by clicking here.
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The “Third Candle” in Relationships
Friday, March 12, 2010
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By: Charlyne Gelt, Ph.D., M.F.T.
Who am I without you?
In a healthy relationship, the right answer is me. I am who I am, and with you I am more (and so are you). I am not diminished by you, nor are you by me. We are we.
For many couples, the process of defining appropriate emotional boundaries in order to create a healthy sense of a “we” in their relationship can be tricky. Couples enter
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Charlyne Gelt, Ph.D. practices in Encino and Beverly Hills and works with individuals, couples, families (including families who have a loved one in prison), and groups.
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Blinded by Jealousy?
Monday, May 03, 2010
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By: Andrea Boyle
Jealousy really is "blinding," according to a new study by two University of Delaware psychology professors. They found that women who were made to feel jealous were so distracted by unpleasant emotional images they became unable to spot targets they were trying to find.
The researchers suggest that their results reveal something profound about social relationships and perception: It has long been known that the emotions involved in social relationships a...
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Contact: Andrea Boyle
University of Delaware
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Dating: Some Unconscious Influences "New York Resident"
Wednesday, April 07, 2010
(Read Count: 179)
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By: Dr. Donald Mars
The city offers a plethora of opportunities to meet people and form new relationships. However, meeting people and dating also encompasses a host of psychological issues which can interfere and cause havoc, as well as continual unhappiness and pain.
When singles feel like everyone else is in a relationship or they find themselves consistently being told by the people with whom they are attracted that only friendship, not romance is possible, then I wonder what is so thre...
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Dr. Donald Mars is a licensed psychologist with over 30 years in private practice. He has two office locations in New York. Dr. Mars practice encompasses both individual and group psychotherapy as well as psychoanalysis and marriage counseling. To learn more about Dr. Mars please view his profile here.
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It's the little things: Everyday gratitude as a booster shot for romantic relationships
Thursday, June 17, 2010
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By: Bethany Carland-Adams
Our busy lives sometimes feel like they are spinning out of control, and we lose track of the little things we can do to add meaning to our lives and make our loved ones feel appreciated. A new article in Personal Relationships points the way to the methods of gratitude we can use to give a boost to our romantic relationships, and help us achieve and maintain satisfaction with our partners.
Humans are interdependent, with people doing things for each other all the time. Simply because a person does something for another does not mean that the emotion ...
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By: Bethany Carland-Adams
This study is published in the June 2010 issue of Personal Relationships.
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A Daughter's Memories on Father's Day
Sunday, June 13, 2010
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By: Raelene S. Weaver, MA, MBA
My Dad passed away on Christmas Day 8 years ago. It was sad of course, because he was gone. But it brought some peace too, because he had battled Parkinson's disease for 4 ½ years, and as my step-brother said, “Christmas was Dad's favorite holiday, and he was going home.” I was crazy about my Dad when I was little. I wanted to do everything with him. I had a little recliner chair right next to Dad's chair, so it was like Papa Bear and Baby Bear. My Dad often worked six days a week, so on Sunday mornings, crawling into bed with him to read Goldilocks and the ...
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Raelene S. Weaver, MA, MBA is a licensed marriage and family therapist in San Jose, CA. To learn more about Ms. Weaver please view her profile here.
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Understanding the Cycle
Friday, July 23, 2010
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By: Jennifer A. Olden, LMFT
A relationship is a dance - and the rhythms and habitual steps of the dance have their own momentum - can take over. In EFT we look at the dance you are caught in and how it leaves you both hurting and frustrated. We help you step out of your negative dance and create a new dance that is safer, closer and more satisfying. We talk about emotions a lot because they are the music of the dance - we help you understand the signals you send that might make it hard for your partner to come close and help you send new emotional signals that pull y...
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